Wednesday, 19 August 2015

When It's Okay To Quit Your Job

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It's been three weeks since I quit my job as a receptionist at a hotel and although it was a scary decision to make, I've not regretted it once. I don't know about you guys but I don't think I know many people who have just quit their job without another to go to, so for me it was a frightening decision to make because so many doubts were going through my mind like, "Everyone else I work with is fine, why am I finding this so stressful?" and, "No one else I know has just quit their job even if it was shit, am I just being weak, maybe it'll get better it's just a phase?". Although I 100% believe in a little sacrifice for a better life in the long term and that job meant I was able to take myself and James away for his 21st, buy myself a new camera for blogging and new computer for video editing (yes, a Youwishyou Youtube is coming soon! Subscribe now to see my first video as soon as it's released), when you're in a position where every fiber of your being is telling you you're miserable it's time to take action. I get that you feel you're being stupid and overreacting, but with any aspect of life it's so important not to stay in an unhappy position. If anyone is in the same situation, here are the things I felt were most important when making the decision to quit my job. 

-If You Can Manage Financially-

Why do we get jobs we don't particularly want to jump out of bed for? Money, in a word. Unfortunately we live in a world where without money you're a sitting duck. You can't have your own house, eat, pay for your water and electricity and those are just the necessities. Even the things that are free to enjoy like beautiful nature locations you have to take in consideration the cost of travel ect... The list could never end. Money is one of the main factors for staying in a job but I also believe that you shouldn't compromise your happiness in the name of money. If you are thinking you want to leave your job, open a savings account and save as much money as you can before you quit. I don't think there's anything wrong with being unemployed for a period of time as long as you can manage for yourself but it is important to make sure you are backed up financially especially if you have commitments such as rent, utility bills and children. Even if you have no spending money for things such as makeup, clothes or takeaways while you find a new job that makes you glad to get out of bed in the morning, make sure you're set for the basics.

-When You Can't Control Your Emotions at Work-

Near the end of working at the hotel, I felt constantly on edge. I often felt like I was either going to lose my temper and fly into a rage or break down into tears. Unfortunately one day it did happen. There are obviously times when you feel frustrated or upset at work - we've all had to grit our teeth and fake a smile at the customer that just won't stop moaning about something that's completely out of your control - but I think if you get to the stage when you're so on edge and tense that you literally can't control your emotions then it might be time to call it a day. Doubting yourself and thinking you are overreacting is common but also somewhat important. If you are just going through an irritable phase it may pass, but if you feel like this for a prolonged period of time then you should definitely listen to your emotions.

-When You Don't Even Enjoy Your Time Off-

This might not make sense to some people, if you hate your job then how could you not enjoy your time off? It's not logical, I know. But, when you're unhappy at work it not only effects you inside of the workplace but also outside. I used to find that I was miserable even during my time off as I was just filled with dread at the thought of going back. I could not relax. When your negativity at one aspect of your life seeps through into others, I think that is when you know you need to make a change. Instead of being my usual happy self and being excited to spend time with James I would mope around the house which I know made him feel bad as well which is the worst. The only thing crapper than feeling miserable is making those you love feeling miserable, am I right? When your life outside of work starts to suffer, you know the time is right to be leaving your job and you've no reason to feel worried or guilty about it either.

Although only three points were made there, I do think they are all so important. I think the most valuable thing overall is to trust yourself and your instincts. Happiness and maintaining a positive, healthy mentality is so important and no job should compromise that. Please feel free to drop me and email or tweet (all my social media information is under the Follow and Subscribe section on the left hand side) if you're in a position like this and you want any advice, or even anyone to talk to about it! 

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18 comments

  1. I felt the same things, was miserable at my job in retail - would either get really annoyed and angry or felt like I would break down in tears plus I'd get home and have no energy and be miserable, so I quit! With no other job lined up, just the prospect of moving away... well me and my boyfriend did end up moving away to Mallorca where we've been living for the past two years... you never know what's around the corner and sometimes you need the courage to remove yourself from negative situations to allow room for better things :)

    So good for you! I hope you find something more enjoyable and I felt that same thing - that how can I find working in that place so stressful when everyone else seems fine with it! We're all different I guess. I found that I probably struggled more than most because being an introvert meant that being around people all day really wiped my energy levels!

    Charlotte Harvs | Blog

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    1. That's so amazing, I hope you're loving it in Mallorca!

      Yeah, I agree. You compare yourself to others and it makes you feel stupid but in the end you just got to do what's right for you xx

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  2. I have been in a job where i had to just leave, it is a horrible feeling and no one should feel like that x
    Emma | Emmys Beauty Cave

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  3. Totally relatable - always better to quit your job & be happy than to stay at it and be miserable for the rest of your life! :) x

    Sascha
    feathersandbutterflies.wordpress.com

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  4. I can totally relate to this - I kept a job I hated for 6 months longer than I should have, purely because I felt bad for the kids I was teaching. I wasn't told when classes were cancelled, nor were some parents, and actually ranted at my line manager that I was a coach not a babysitter! They kicked me off of gymnastics and I only agreed to coach trampolining to make up the hours I wasn't getting and it was a health andnsafety nightmare - one trampoline collapsed on the last lesson I taught! Never again would I stay in such an awful job. In a way, their kicking me off tuesdays meant I nabbed a role at a well-known club with better pay and perks and a lovely atmosphere - been there 7 months working two days and I actually look forward to going in nowadays!

    sorry for the ramble haha, so glad you quit a job that made you unhappy xx

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  5. I quit my job of 5 years in May to go travelling and see what happens. I'm back home now temping in a semi okay job, just to have some income coming in and am now looking for my dream job (which I have two interviews today for)
    Great post.
    Lola

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    1. Wishing you the best of luck! I really hope it goes well for you and it's so amazing you followed you heart and went travelling xx

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  6. I just quit my job yesterday to follow my dreams, and I'm terrified but I don't regret it at all! Happiness is so important, but so many people don't consider it when looking for work - it's all about money! But at the end of the day, you'll never make a lot of money if you aren't motivated to work hard! Good luck with everything!

    Milli
    artsandgraces.com

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    1. Oh my gosh I hope it's all going well! It is scary but like you said, happiness is so important xxx

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  7. Can I ask though how you all coped financially. I have a baby and a mortgage, there is no way I could quit a job without having another form of income lined up. x

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  8. ooh just wanted to add, I have been there, lost loads of weight, got signed off work by dr with stress, so I have gone through it. Just wanted to add that incase anyone thought I didn't know how it felt x

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  9. This is the most accurate post ever, I'm not happy on my current job and mostly because of the people not the job itself as I love decorating my cakes. I completely agree with the last statement, I started to enjoy less my time off and I have quite a lot spare time as I work part-time. The thing is, it affects my entire life, the most important thing to me is to feel good in my job, the overall environment has to be good but that doesn't happen and it's getting into my personal life, I feel depressed, I don't wanna get up and go there face those people and mostly I don't wanna work without knowing what time I'll be going home, 'cause that's what happen most of the times. It's been a struggle but harder is to find a different job as I can't seem to hear from other places I've applied to :( As soon as I have other thing, hopefully better, I'll quit this depressing life consuming job! But till then I have to stay strong and believe!

    Sara | www.marybloomy.com

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    1. I'm so sorry to read this, like seriously it's so horrible to feel stuck in a situation you aren't enjoying. I hope you hear back from your applications soon, drop me a tweet when you do! Xx

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  10. Oh my goodness I can totally relate to this post at the moment! I have been so miserable in my current job that I've had to take time off to get away from the place as it was making me feel ill to the point where I couldn't eat. Things are starting to look up now so fingers cross! I wish you all the best! xoxo

    gemstrends.blogspot.co.uk

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  11. I did this in my last job and can totally relate. There's no point to making yourself unhappy, it's just not worth it!

    Allie x

    Rush + Teal

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  12. This is a great post which highlighted many important points. I believe that you should enjoy your job, no matter what! If you're not happy at work, you'll bring that negativity home with you and it will upset your family and friends as well. I hope you find a new job which makes you smile :) xx

    hannahnotes.blogspot.co.uk

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