Saturday, 14 February 2015

Valentine's And The Single Girls

Valentines day single girls girl

We're waking up this morning to our calender's showing February 14th. Some of us will be waking up on Valentine's Day with butterflies in our tummies, excited for any romantic surprises ahead, but for some of us it's quite frankly, just another day. Being a single girl on Valentine's Day can feel like being a vegetarian at a BBQ (you know what I mean, when all you end up with on your plate is some potato salad and crisps), but whether you're a hopeless romantic or a cynic when it comes to love, hear these single girls have their say on Valentine's Day.

Words by Sam Smethurst of Little Fickle

"Okay, so let’s be fair here - I’m not the most romantic of people. I think Disney love is beautiful, harmonious and, mostly, unrealistic. I firmly believe that real love is the type that you see in bad romantic comedies - the kind where most of the time, one half of the coupling is sort of looking like they want to strangle the other. Love is infuriating, frustrating and, now bear with me here as I say something shocking - not the be all and end all. Although, Twitter, Facebook and Pinterest would undoubtedly have you believing otherwise.

I understand how lonely Valentines day can seem - it’s a difficult day if you don’t have somebody and supposedly the rest of the world has (or at least seems to), but here’s the thing - I’m not only going to be single on February the 14th, I’ve been single every day since July last year, and I’m pretty confident when I say I’ll be single for the foreseeable. In a strange way, I see myself as lucky - out of all of the commercialised holiday’s I could be alone on, if the only one I spend alone is Valentine’s, I feel like that’s something I can deal with. I am in a place in my life where I’m more than aware - and I like to make other people more than aware - that I don’t need an other half to feel validated as a person.

On Valentine’s last year, I spent the night watching bad films, in bed - and this year I’ll undoubtedly spend it the same way - only I’ll be on my own this year, and I’ll be a decent £30 up as I haven’t had to buy anyone any presents. I’ll be avoiding Facebook (as usual) and eating junk food (as usual) for one simple reason - it’s just another Saturday. I won’t be pining over a missing love, and singing “One Day My Prince Will Come” whilst staring forlornly out of the window - I’ll be living it up as an independent woman who don’t need no man (erm, too far? I feel like that might have been too far.) Instead of giving your money to card shops and teddy bear companies - take it to lush and treat yourself to some bubble bars, pamper yourself, watch horror films or Disney films, and spend the day of love with the person that’s got you through this far of your life, and will take you through right to the end - yourself.

Forget about February 14th, you want to know what February is all about? The 15th - where chocolate will be reduced right down, and it might be heart shaped, but beggars can’t be choosers.  Or even better, the 17th is Pancake Day. Valentines Day is, after all, just another day - but the sooner we get it out of the way, the sooner we get into the good stuff, Nutella pancakes anyone? Cheap Lindt? Fully fledged Creme Egg season? Now, that’s the sort of stuff that you can count me in for."

Words by Rachel Marie of Rachel Coco

"Valentines day. Probably one of the best days of the year if you’re all loved up with someone * sighs *, but probably seems like one of the worst if you’re a single pringle.. AKA me. As I get older it seems to become more and more depressing that I’ve never actually been given a Valentines card/present or had someone to share Valentines day with! Does anyone else feel my pain here or is it just me that seems to be ‘forever alone’?  I really hope I’m not the only one! There seems to be this huge hype around Valentines day and wherever you go there’s constant reminders e.g. huge Valentines aisles in shops, constant adverts for gifts, practically every beauty Youtuber uploading a ‘Valentines makeup tutorial’. Valentines day is everywhere!

Anyway I think for fellow singles it’s important that we don’t let this day bring us down! I know it can be so difficult to escape from it when people are declaring their love for one another over various forms of social media. I mean you go on Instagram and it’s just a timeline of pictures of Pandora jewellery, Michael Kors watches and boxes of chocolates with the captions ‘Lucky girl’/’Been so spoilt this Valentines day’ etc. It annoys me when people brag, but to be honest, I’m just green with envy! Not of the presents or anything - just of people that have someone to share the day with and do something special.

I think the best thing to do if you don’t have someone to celebrate Valentines with and are feeling a bit lonely is to just treat yourself. Kind of be your own Valentine. Yes that sounds really weird but there’s nothing nicer than a lovely pamper evening or treating yourself to that designer bag you’ve been lusting after! Turn Valentines into YOUR day. And if you are feeling lonely just remember that the man/girl of your dreams could be just around the corner. You never know what’s going to happen/who you’re going to bump into which is kind of exciting.. don’t cha think? * Dreams about bumping into Harry Styles when popping to the shop for some milk *."

Whether you're happily taken or a single lady, happy Valentine's Day from Youwishyou!



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  1. Happy Valentine's Day to you too! I am spending it with my boyfriend but we are having a fairly low key affair - no presents this year and are mostly just spending quality time at home together. It must be hard being single on Valentine's Day but I completely agree with you, it's an opportunity to treat yourself and be your own Valentine - you're more likely to get it right too! xx

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