Tuesday, 9 December 2014

Feeling Confident Despite Bad Skin

Feeling Confident Despite Bad Skin

“A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”

-Roald Dahl

I'll be the first person to tell you that I have horrible skin. I've had acne for the majority of my teenage life and my skin only seemed to start to calm down slightly in the past two years. A few months ago my skin was the best it's ever been with literally only one small blemish, but that exciting, happy time was short lived. It's since downward spiraled again making my dream of ever having clear skin seem again completely out of sight. I'm not going to lie to you, it is frustrating. I take good care of my skin, I never go to bed without taking my make-up off, I have at least two days a week that I don't wear any make-up, I cleanse every day and night and only use natural/organic skincare products but my skin still seems to form a new eruption of spots at every chance it can. When you're doing everything by the book but still not getting changes it is upsetting. Even when I have make-up on I feel like my spots are still blatantly obvious and the days that I don't wear make-up to try and help my skin, I feel so ugly I want to hide away (literally getting a lump in my throat writing this). Not being confident in yourself and your appearance can effect you in all walks of life. I study Broadcast Journalism at university which means at the moment one day a week I'm being filmed for assessments, next semester that will increase as we start our module on television; the thought of being in front of any sort of high quality camera is one that I often dread. For many people with bad skin like myself, I know going anywhere without a full face of make-up can become an anxiety, feeling like you can't look pretty in photos is heartbreaking and just the feeling of hopelessness that you'll never have 'normal' skin is pretty overwhelming. To some people it may seem silly to get upset over spots as I know that everyone gets them, but when they never seem to go away, it can be disheartening and a knock to confidence. 

-YOUR SKIN DOESN'T DEFINE YOU-

Just as a beautiful appearance doesn't necessarily mean a beautiful person, having imperfect skin doesn't make you an ugly person. People in your life won't even think about your appearance when they interact with you, chances are they don't even care or notice your blemishes half as much as you do. Although you may think of yourself as 'the friend with bad skin' or the 'girl in your class with loads of spots', I guarantee that's not how other people will define and remember you. Your personality scopes past your skin and any part of your appearance, don't let your insecurities about them consume your identity. 

-FOCUS ON YOUR OTHER BEAUTIFUL FEATURES-

We all have features of ourselves that make us uncomfortable, but when you feel a self-loathing episode brewing, take a good look in the mirror and think about what you like about yourself. If you really can't find one thing about your physical appearance that you like (doubt it, you're beautiful), then what about your personality? Personality is way more important than looks, and although feeling pretty can do wonders for your self esteem, I'd 100% rather be fucking ugly than be beautiful but with a nasty, mean personality. I tend to find that a person's personality really effects the way I view them, and if they are lovely on the inside, I will see them as lovely on the outside too.

-DON'T GIVE UP ON A SOLUTION-

When you have blemishes that never seem to go away, it can feel like there is no hope in the world of ever having skin to be proud of. Despite the fact I personally haven't found the solution to my bad skin, I've read plenty of blogs where girls have talked about their bad skin journey and how not giving up finally lead them to the right solution for their complexion. A lot of them say that it didn't happen overnight, but they found their solution in the end. I think the important thing to remember is that everyone's skin is different and that you shouldn't be upset if something that works for someone else doesn't have the same effect for you; don't let it dishearten you, keep searching!

This is a topic quite close to my heart as it's something that I've lived with for the majority of my life. Whilst there isn't a lot I can say to cure your low self-esteem (it's something everyone has to do for themselves), I hope you keep in mind these three points on the days that you are feeling hopeless and unconfident about your skin.

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  1. I can definitely relate to this. When I was a teenager my skin was awful and it used to always get me down - this especially made it worse as I now know that I break out even more when I'm stressed! You're definitely right about people not caring though, and if they do they are not the sort of people you want to surround yourself with. It's been a long journey but now I'm 21 and I have learned to love the skin I'm in, even though it's not perfect and I still get some spots. Very inspiring post :) x

    Rachel Elizabeth

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  2. I love this post. I've always had semi-bad skin, and compared to my friends, it's just not going away! But I believe that covering them up makes them look even more obvious, so I just try to face the facts and get on with it - that way it's a lot easier and there's other more important things to worry about :) xx

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  3. Just wanted to say I read and can really relate to this post. I had moderate acne when I was a teenager and used all sorts of lotions and potions from the doctor to treat it which left my skin really sore and dry and bleached all of my flannels and pillowcases. I ended up stripping my skincare right back and just used the Boots Cucumber range - simple, but it calmed everything right down. Now I'm a bit older thankfully my skin has really improved and it's nowhere near as bad as it was but I can still really relate to what you're saying. It's so true that your skin doesn't define you! x x x

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  4. Lovely post. I can definitely relate, I've had 'bad skin' since I was 13 and while it's so much better than it used to be, I still break out. It's ridiculous how much it can knock your confidence! Like you, I'm on camera for my acting and it's horrible having close ups or going for an audition and being judged on your appearance. I've changed my skin care routine to nearly all natural products which is much gentler and more effective and for my lifestyle; I've cut out my gallons of tea a day, drink loads of water, cut down on sugar, no longer drink milk and exercise every day. Try looking into your diet, it really helped me. I'm breaking out at the moment because I've over done it on the caffeine and sugar the past couple of weeks. The key is to stick to a routine, as tempting as it is, and see if it works! xx sheepishlyshameful.blogspot.co.uk

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  5. this is such a lovely post, thank you for confidence boost. My skin has really been playing up lately :( xx

    Ioanna | Hearting.co.uk

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  6. Definitely need this post right now - am struggling quite a lot with my skin at the moment. Such a great post!
    Abbie xx
    Another Student Blog

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  7. Thank you for this post, it's wonderful! I have terribly acne prone skin and sometimes it makes me feel horrible about myself. It's always nice to know that others feel your pain!

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